Relationship & Love Advice

No matter what kind of loving pairing you're part of--no matter if it is a long term marriage, you have three kids or no kids, boyfriend and girlfriend or a gay relationship--chances are that you are both too preoccupied with your daily routine to just commit sufficient time for each other. Most of us have more tasks to do than we have available time. You may well wonder whether the world has always been this way or whether it is only in these modern times.

Unfortunately, one of the first things to get postponed "until there is enough time" is meaningful time with our significant others. We think we'll soon find more time once this project at work is finished. Or we pray that we won't be as busy once little Sarah's soccer season is over. We soon find ourselves pondering if our relationship has grown stale. Perhaps, we think, this happens to all couples after they have been paired for some period of time. Perhaps it does, but even that is no excuse. No person, no project at the office, no "honey do" list at your home should become more important than your partner--at least not every time that a priority must be established.

Here are a few tips for a wonderful, non-traditional, intimate evening at home.

Choose a night to send the children and pets off to Grandma's (or a neighbor's house)

Select some music that you both enjoy

Throw away (or hide) or turn off all telephones, computers and any other contraptions that could possibly interrupt you

Order a gourmet meal from an online boutique--one that needs almost no work on your part but has an aroma and flavor of one from a four star restaurant

Purchase a bottle of fine wine or, better yet, a stimulating mixture of crisp fruit juices

Hide your cars so nobody can guess that you are home

Close all curtains

Turn off the lights

Pretend you're not home

Light mildly scented candles

Eat at a very slow pace

Take time to talk about one another in hushed tones

Actually pay attention to what your significant other says

Finish the meal with a small piece of gourmet turtle cheesecake and a glass of dessert wine or cup of freshly brewed tea

Worry about your diet some other day

Don't wash the dishes

Blow out some candles

Don't go to the bedroom

See if you can think of any activity that relaxes you--in some stimulating manner

Oh, yeah. Say the three magic words and mean it

Go through the whole process after a month. You will still be busy, but you won't mind as much if you take some quality time for yourselves at home.